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Let’s start with Edging, as both Tease and Denial and Gooning employ it though through different approaches.
Edging generally refers to the gradual build up of sexual stimulation, before backing off as close to the “edge” as possible. This can happen a few times before release, or go on for many hours, or even conclude with no climax whatsoever!
Scared? No reason to be! There are many benefits to delaying gratification in a very pleasant way, here are a few.
So may misconceptions have developed over time… those being denied release have developed some creative “stories”:
Fun fact! Women can also experience blue balls, it’s not just for guys. Yes it’s true! Also called “Epididymal hypertension” (hooray for equality) or “blue vulva”, blood builds as the clitoris is stimulated, and, when not dispelled via an orgasm, can cause an aching sensation which, like their male counterparts, diminishes within a few hours after the end of stimulation.
The only anecdotal negative associated with extending play is the rare report of partnered sex taking too long to climax! The easy preventative method of avoiding this is to communicate! If it’s not fun and pleasurable for both then move on to something else.
Entering into a play session with tease and denial as part of the menu decreases performance anxiety and can create a more relaxing experience. When the journey of a pleasurable experience becomes the goal instead of the destination of orgasm, a more fulfilling experience is achieved.
While the biological urge to climax is real, when the brain is also engaged to control the ebb and flow of pleasure, the lasting positive effects of the experience can last longer and even be more satisfying.
One other factor to be mindful of when engaging in edging is the need for cool downs to avoid overstimulation. It’s a fine line to walk requiring attunement to your body. Most people are able to tell when they are approaching orgasm, and while the urge to finish is undeniable, the act itself is not.
Backing off the level of stimulation allows the body to regulate, returning to general arousal before the build up begins again. It’s important to allow the body this time to avoid exhaustion, possible anxiety or lingering stress.
If you’re asking these questions, read on. You’ve come to the right place, and by the end of this article, you’ll be begging for more!
Most kink players have heard of tease and denial (T&D), a powerful tool of erotic play involving two (or more!) partners playing with repeatedly building arousal of one partner close to the point of climax, without release.
But what is gooning? How about goon space? This slang internet term has wormed its way into kink culture in recent history and shares elements of tease and denial.
How are these explored? How are they different? Who does it, how does it enhance BDSM or sexual experiences, and why are they all so HOT?
Now that we’ve established a basic understanding of edging, let’s talk tease and denial.
Tease and Denial (T&D), refers to play between partners. Part of the thrill unique to T&D is the psychological aspects of power exchange. While edging does not have to occur in a BDSM practice, T&D goes hand and hand with power exchange. This exchange of energy where the sub surrenders sexual control to a partner adds a distinct kink flavor to the play. This I a cornerstone of FemDom play and a toll of the professional dominatrix. The anticipation and frustration build a heightened sense of arousal and can lead to deeper levels of submission as the “denied” becomes more desperate for their climax, which in turn can create a sense of empowerment for the teaser and more confidence in their sexuality and knowledge of their partner’s pleasure.
More vanilla players may have an orgasm implicitly established as an end game, however in the hands of a Professional Dominatrix the experience can rise to a new level. Helpless in the grasp of her allure and control, the thrill is enhanced with the very real possibility of denial. “Will she take pity on me?” “How will I earn my release?” “What can I do convince I deserve it, serving her in every way?” Common thoughts of my submissives lucky enough to enjoy this BDSM play with me.
Personally I find “tie and tease” to be my most effective weapon in my arsenal, my body and touch are the most effective way to bring your to the brink, the sight of my body, the purr of my voice, the smell of my hair, the taste my skin (maybe, if you’re very good) and of course my firm or gentle touch is the ultimate multi sensory experience. Why would you ever need more?
Still, for those who cannot surrender to NYC Dominatrix Goddess Viktoria Sway’s ministrations for whatever terrible reason, there are various techniques you can incorporate into your personal play to keep things exciting and pleasurable. Here are a few to consider:
Sensory Play
Incorporate sensory play to enhance the tease aspect of T&D. Use different textures, temperatures, and sensations to heighten arousal. Feathers, ice cubes, and silk scarves can add an extra layer of excitement to the experience.
Verbal Teasing
Verbal teasing can be incredibly arousing, especially when combined with physical stimulation. Whispering naughty thoughts, describing what you plan to do next, or simply telling your partner how much you enjoy watching their reactions can intensify the experience.
Vibrators
Vibrators can be used to bring the denied partner to the brink of orgasm repeatedly. Experiment with different settings and intensities to find what works best for you and your partner.
Restraints
Restraints can add an element of bondage to your T&D play, heightening the sense of helplessness and anticipation. Always have safety scissors on hand in case of an emergency.
Blindfolds
Blindfolds can enhance sensory play by depriving the denied partner of sight, making them more attuned to touch and sound. This can intensify the teasing and build anticipation.
There are several misconceptions that may give curious folks pause, let’s address them.
Tease and Denial is only for advanced play: While the practice can be intense, it’s not limited to kink culture and FemDom. Starting slow, and good communication allows just about anyone to engage in the play without risk.
It’s all about physical stimulation- T&D is as much about the psychological aspect as it is about physical stimulation. The mental and emotional connection between partners plays a significant role in the experience.
It’s about punishment-Engaging doesn’t have to be mean! Enhancing pleasure through anticipation and control is real! In the D/s world there can be elements of punishment, where the orgasm is the reward for proper behavior or obedience to rules and protocols, however this too is part of the eroticism of D/s and is generally a pleasurable experience for both.
I need to be a sexpert to successfully engage in T&D- Not at all, while this is be a great tool in New York City Dominatrix Goddess Viktoria Sway’s arsenal, anyone can enjoy it! In fact T&D is an excellent way to learn more about your partner’s likes and dislikes. “The scenic route” can take the pressure off the teaser to perform and you can relax and see what works and what doesn’t at a pace without expectations. We all know knowledge is power; as you learn your partner’s likes and dislikes your confidence as a lover grows!
You’re laying on a big four poster bed naked, arms and legs spread, tied with ribbon to each post, your partner stands over you, smiling at your exposure. Slowly they slide their hands over your naked form, gently exploring all of you, including your most sensitive parts, but not limiting the touch there. You start to tremble, and notice they smile in delight, noticing your excitement and reach for the massage oil waiting on the nightstand. Your partner is so good at sensual massage, and your body aches for their touch.
5 minutes later you’re straining against those ribbons, every nerve on your body is on fire, dripping and on the brink of release, sweat glistening on your forehead…
And then, their busy hands slow. “Nooooo!” your body screams, and you moan, eyes pleading. But your partner laughs, and their touch travels slowly across your thighs, lightly caressing your inner thighs, knees, and down to your feet, where a slow foot massage begins.
Your head swims, powerfully turned on, overwhelmed by craving, but this new sensation is pleasant too and you enjoy it, but a few minutes later their gentle touch begins traveling back up your thighs, and the arousal is renewed, now you are wondering how close they will bring you this time, and will this time be the release???
now that I’ve got you in the right mindset…
Do you like to stare endlessly at your favorite FemDom online? Do you consume all other Conent.... you may be a goon
Some “goonsperts” recommend the following techniques to enhance your experience. Try it out for yourself!
Many women, however, have a much faster refractory period between orgasms, or are even multi-orgasmic. This may in part be why gooning is more associated with men, the need to prolong forplay is stronger for those that only orgasm once.
The tipping point for addiction across the boards is the impact on the daily life and function of an individual; if you are missing work, ignoring your friends and family, letting your hygiene go or ignoring your responsibilities for ANY reason, you may have an addiction problem.
It’s entirely possible you found your way to this article searching “Gooning” in your favorite web browser. You’ve come to the right place!
Gooning, much like tease and denial involves edging, but of a different nature. Typically gooning is an activity related to porn, sometimes specifically one performer’s content, sometimes not.
“The term is a nod to the ‘Goons’ of early Popeye the Sailor cartoons, which depicted henchmen who were not very smart and seemingly single-task oriented.” Says Dr. Ty David Lerman, Ph.D on Mashable. And I’m sure you can guess what that “single-task” is if you’ve been paying attention thus far! Despite the relative explosion (or, in this case, denied explosion) of the term in internet culture, the reference has been popping up since 2005.
Many people report that long sessions of porn consumption can result in a trancelike- hypnotized type feeling through the maintaining of a higher sexual arousal without release. This experience is also called a “Goon State” by those who enjoy the experience. Within the world of kink culture, this is likened to sub space for those who have played in that arena as well.
The psychological thrill can come from viewing an impossibly attractive person, knowing they are unattainable and therefore the only way of connecting with the object of the desire is through masturbating to images. This last part is a crucial departure from the general idea of edging and tease and denial, bringing the psychological component of humiliation into the mix.
For some, the edging comes into play through that humiliation, the idea that they aren’t worthy of the orgasm due to the unattainability of the object of their desire can be a factor, similarly to being sexually attracted to those in one’s world that are not available.
Sometimes those engaging in gooning enjoy the confession (or the fantasy of the confession) to the object of their attraction. This comes in part from a deeply rooted sense of shame over the act of masturbation and/or viewing pornography in the first place. The anticipation of ridicule or shaming can increase the sense excitement, and the denial of the climax can reinforce the “I’m not worthy” feelings.
The comparison of gooning to subspace allows us to understand the biology a bit better. In a 2016 study on subspace conducted by a research team called The Science of BDSM, found comparable and measurable changes in reducing psychological stress and negative affect as well as increased sexual desire and cognitive flexibility. Medically these changes were identified by observed increases in cortisol (the stress hormone) in study participants.
That sounds bad! Well, not really. Cortisol activates endorphins, the class of neurotransmitters that are responsible for the euphoric feeling during scenes or even a long run. Additionally higher levels of dopamine are triggered in subspace and gooning. Dopamine is part of the sensation of pleasure we experience from many different stimulus, including those created by yourself.
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