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Incorporating Spanking Into Your BDSM Play

If you’re interested in incorporating spanking into your BDSM play, there are many ways to get started. You can begin with light spanking using a hand or other soft implement, gradually increasing the intensity until you find a level that works for both partners. You can also experiment with different spanking positions, such as lying over the lap or bending over furniture.

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Spanking Implement

While traditionally spanking refers to hand spanking, there’s a wide variety of implements that can be used. These spanking implements each provide unique sensations- here are just a few to start your journey:

  1. Hand: The most commonly used implement due to its convenience and the intimate contact it provides.
  2. Paddle: Comes in different sizes and materials, each providing different levels of sting or thud.
  3. Cane: Known for its intense sting and precision, it can leave distinct marks.
  4. Flogger: Its multiple tails can provide a range of sensations from a soft caress to a hard sting, depending on how it’s used.
  5. Whip: Can be challenging to control but provides a very intense sting, ideal for more experienced players.
  6. Belt or Strap: Common household items that can provide a strong thud or sting.
  7. Hairbrush: Its hard, flat surface can provide a painful sting.
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Spanking Warmup

A warm-up before spanking is a crucial part of the process, and it serves multiple essential functions:

  1. Increased Blood Flow: Starting with lighter, less intense spanking or massaging can increase blood flow to the area. This is important because increased circulation can help reduce the risk of bruising and injury and enhance sensations. 
  2. Release of Endorphins: A warm-up can help initiate the release of endorphins and other chemicals, which can create a pleasurable sensation and help the spankee manage pain to prepare the body for more intense impact, reducing the shock to the system and making the experience more enjoyable arm-up can build anticipation and heighten arousal, enhancing the overall experience 
  3. Reducing the Likelihood of Bruising: A warm-up spanking can significantly reduce the likelihood of bruising by bringing the nerves of the buttocks to the surface.

 

Regarding how a warm-up for spanking may occur, it often involves starting with lighter spanks or a massage of the area to be spanked. The intensity can then gradually be increased according to the comfort and consent of the spankee.

Spanking Fetish Scenarios

Spanking can also cater to various fetishes within BDSM:

  1. Impact play: The fetish of being struck by an implement, such as those listed above.
  2. Discipline and punishment: The fetish of being disciplined or punished by a dominant partner through spanking.
  3. Humiliation: The fetish of being humiliated or embarrassed, which can be amplified by spanking, especially in front of others.
  4. Age play: Spanking can play a role in age play scenarios, such as naughty schoolboy/schoolgirl or misbehaving child.
  5. Sensation play: Some people enjoy the various sensations that implements can provide, from a soft caress to a hard sting.
  6. Power exchange: Spanking can symbolize the dominant’s control over the submissive, catering to the fetish of power exchange.
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Spanking Positions

Spanking positions in BDSM or discipline are the different postures used by the person being spanked (spankee) and the person doing the spanking (spanker). These positions can vary based on the individuals’ relationships and preferences. Here are some common spanking positions:

Each position offers different levels of comfort, exposure, and movement.  

Spanking Positions Bent Over the Knee (OTK):

The spanker sits while the spankee is placed over their lap for a spanking.

Bending Over:

 The spankee bends over furniture like a bed or a chair, which can increase the psychological impact.

Bending Over:

 The spankee bends over furniture like a bed or a chair, which can increase the psychological impact.

Kneeling on the Floor with Torso on Bed

The spankee kneels on the floor with their torso on the bed, presenting their bottom for spanking.

Four On The Floor:

The spankee goes on all fours, similar to a crawling position.

The Wheel Barrow:

A more adventurous position where the spankee’s hands are on the ground as if they were in a wheelbarrow race.

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Why Spanking?

Spanking is a mainstay in BDSM play that involves striking a submissive buttocks with a hand or implement. While it’s often experienced as a form of punishment, spanking has a wide range of potential emotional and physical effects. The practice of spanking can be pleasurable, painful, or somewhere in between, and the physical sensations it creates can also stir up a variety of emotional responses.

Spanking, as used in BDSM scenes, affects both the sub and the Domme Whether you’re a seasoned BDSM spanker or just curious about exploring new activities, understanding the nuances of spanking can help you create scenes that are emotionally satisfying and physically safe.

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The Physical Effects of Spanking

First and foremost, it’s important to clarify what CBT entails. At its core, CBT is a type of BDSM activity that focuses on the genitalia and surrounding areas. It can involve a range of techniques, from light bondage to impact play, but the key is that the focus remains on the cock and balls. While this might sound intimidating, it’s important to note that CBT can be as gentle or intense as desired, and boundaries are always respected.

The use of implements, such as paddles, can increase the intensity of the spanking and create distinctive sensations. Some subs enjoy the feeling of being hit with different implements, while others prefer the traditional hand-to-butt spanking. Communication between the sub and the dom is essential to ensure that the scene stays within the sub’s physical limits.

Spanking: Pleasure or Punishment? 

One question that often arises in BDSM circles is how spanking can be both pleasurable and a form of punishment. The answer lies in the intent and context. If the submissive enjoys a spanking, it can be a form of play or reward. However, if spanking is the consequence of breaking rules or disobedience, it becomes a punishment. Even if the submissive finds some physical pleasure in the act, the knowledge that they are being punished can create a psychological impact. However, it is not an adequate punishment for some submissives, and the dominant must consider other consequences.

The Punishment Spanking

BDSM punishments aim to help the submissive partner improve their behavior. Spanking as a punishment can be more intense than play spanking and may involve different implements like paddles or canes. It’s crucial that the dominant partner understands the submissive’s pain tolerance and respects their hard limits.

Maintenance Spanking

A maintenance spanking reminds the submissive of their role and responsibilities in the relationship. It’s a regular ritual that reinforces the power dynamic between the dominant and the submissive.

The Importance of Warm-up 

Even when spanking is used as a punishment, a warm-up is still essential to prevent injury and make the experience more bearable for the submissive. The dominant can hit harder right away over clothing to protect the skin.

The Emotional Effects of Spanking

In addition to its physical effects, spanking can also create a range of emotions for both the sub and the dom. For the sub, spanking can produce feelings of vulnerability, submission, and arousal. Many subs enjoy the feeling of being controlled and dominated by their dom during a spanking scene.

For the dom, spanking can create feelings of power, control, and arousal. The sound and sight of the spanking, as well as the sub’s reactions, can be highly erotic and satisfying for the dom. However, the dom must also be attuned to the emotional needs of the sub and ensure that the scene is safe and consensual.

The Importance of Communication

As with any BDSM activity, communication is key when it comes to spanking. Before engaging in a spanking scene, the sub and the dom should discuss their boundaries, physical limitations, and emotional needs. Skilled Dommes are closely in tune with their sub’s reactions and feedback during the scene and adjust their actions accordingly.

Bondage Spanking

Bondage can enhance the experience of spanking in several ways, contributing to both the physical and psychological aspects of BDSM play.

  1. Physical Restriction: Bondage restricts movement, allowing the spanker more control and preventing the spankee from moving out of position during the spanking. This can enhance the sensation and effectiveness of the spanking.
  2. Psychological Aspect: The act of being physically restrained can also intensify the psychological dynamic of dominance and submission, increasing the sense of vulnerability and surrender, which many find arousing.
  3. Safety: Bondage can ensure safety by keeping the spankee stable, reducing the risk of accidental injury.
  4. Endorphin Release: Like spanking, bondage can trigger the release of endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers, leading to a ‘high’ that many practitioners describe as pleasurable. Combining the two can potentially amplify this effect.
  5. Therapeutic Benefits: Some individuals find that the combination of bondage and spanking provides stress relief and a sense of calm due to the relinquishment of control.
  6. Enhanced Role Play: Bondage can also enhance role-play scenarios, making the scene more realistic and immersive.

 

Marks and Bruises: BDSM Badge of honor

Spanking can indeed cause marks and bruises, depending on the spanking’s intensity, method, and duration. However, it’s important to note that safety should always be the top priority in any BDSM activity. Here are some potential effects:

  1. Redness: This is the most common and immediate effect of spanking. The skin may become red due to increased blood flow to the area. Redness usually fades relatively quickly.
  2. Bruises: If the spanking is more intense, it might lead to bruising. Bruises form when blood vessels under the skin rupture and leak blood into the surrounding tissue. The color of a bruise can change over time from dark purple to greenish-yellow as your body metabolizes the blood cells and bilirubin pigment in the skin.
  3. Welts: Sometimes, the force of spanking can cause welts or raised areas on the skin. These can be sensitive to the touch and may take a few days to subside.
  4. Cuts or Abrasions: In extreme cases, or if implements with edges are used, spanking could cause cuts or abrasions.

Remember, all BDSM activities should be consensual, safe, sane, and respectful. Open communication about boundaries, desires, and limits is essential in any BDSM relationship. Aftercare, including checking for injuries and providing comfort and reassurance, is also vital post-spanking.

If a mark or bruise doesn’t fade, becomes painful, or is accompanied by other symptoms like fever or intense pain, it’s crucial to seek medical attention as it could indicate an injury or infection.

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