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What is the difference between a Fetish and a Kink? What about BDSM?

The educated connoisseur knows the difference.  This blog discusses the differences, and more importantly provides tools to help readers ensure their needs are met.

A fetish is generally considered a need that MUST be met for the participant to feel satisfied.  Kinky activities diverge from standard bedroom fare, but are not necessarily required for fulfillment.  BDSM combines fetishes and kinks to create a power exchange dynamic between participants.

Fetish Play-   Fetish play is  one or two activities that are arousing to at least one in the party, and is critical to that individuals enjoyment.  In general, people with fetishes engage with their partners as an equal, with typical sensual activities and conversation.

BDSM-    BDSM scenes usually fall into one of the four BDSM categories below or is a combination of any of them.

 

BDSM Categories

  1. Care
    1. Qualities: acceptance, bonding, self-esteem building, nurturing
    2. Activities: role play, sensual massage/touch, sensual D/s, light service, light worship
  2. Arousal
    1. Qualities: sexually charged
    2. Activities: body worship, tease and denial, joi, forced orgasm, prostate and strap on play, chasitiy
  3. Altered State
    1. Qualities: sub-space, endorphins, natural high, healing trauma, small, dirty, degraded, objectified, embarrassed, cherished
    2. Activities: bondage, sensory deprivation, fear play, predicament play, mind fuck, Sissification, sensory play, long term distance relationship, humiliation, chastity
  4. Submission
    1. Qualities: loss of control, useful, cherished, dominated
    2. Activities: protocol training, slave training, domestic service, domestic scenes, consensual non-consent
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To design an impactful and memorable scene with a new partner, a Dominatrix must know  at least 1-2 qualities that a submissive would like to FEEL emotionally during a session and also 2-3 activities that a submissive enjoys.
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Everyone must be an advocate for themselves and their own needs and above all be respectful and clear in communication. Aquatint your partner with the quality factors craved and also the impactful activities.  It is then, the Dominants job to decide if they wish to engage in such a scene, furthermore use their skills and creativity to orchestrate a masterpiece for you both to enjoy.

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