FemDom
Submission to a FemDom: The Ultimate in Healthy Masculine Behavior
In this FemDom blog, I will speak of masculine energy and feminine energy. Although I may use gender-specific words, I do so for the convention of writing. These energies are not gender-specific. All genders have masculine and feminine traits. Typically a person’s essence is one or the other. A healthy identity has developed its polar opposite and has the capacity of both. Usually, a person identifies with one trait, feeling most comfortable when operating from their essence.
“Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman.” Sarah Jessica Parker
First, let’s dive into femininity. The feminine is intuitive, senses, guides, and nurtures. It is experiencing, collaborative, expressive, and shows wonderment. The feminine creates, heals, gives life, and empowers. A Dominatrix uses these gifts to create a mind-altering experience for a sub. The deeper in feminine gifts she is, the more dynamic the experience. Feminine energy is a balm to the soul of the masculine.
So then, what is masculinity? Presence, strength, logical thinking, risk-taking, and decisive action. The masculine loves achieving, strategizing, competing, and planning. Above all healthy masculine holds integrity to its goals. Masculine lives to provide, help and prove its worth to the feminine. The healthy masculine worships the feminine as a life-giving force. Masculine celebrates and basks in feminine traits to feed the masculine strength.
Masculine and feminine energy complement each other and are not in competition. However, they are usually perceived as one taking from the other. For example, the often thought of strong women, sucking the life from a man, stealing all his masculine energy. The man, cowed and weakened by the strong female. Feminine energy in western culture has tended to be thought of as a weakness. Traditionally feminine traits have not been valued to the extent of masculine traits. This belief has weakened us as a culture and robs us of our power to have balance and a healthful synergy.
FemDom offers a path to healing these destructive believes so prevalent in Western culture.
In FemDom, the submissive masculine holds true to its course and boundaries experiencing the wild feminine. The Dominatrix, ever the creator of predicaments, is cruel, loving, exploring, and tempting. She embodies feminine chaos. She provides the ultimate test for the masculine to hold its container and prove worth. The submissive masculine demonstrates integrity, strength, and presence. All of this while being witnessed for his full range of emotions and vulnerability.
Women’s intuition and emotional intelligence keep masculine energy in balance. Masculine relies on the feminine to check and punish when he has wronged himself, others, or the world. Through practices like these balance is restored to our damaged spirits.
“Wholeness is not achieved by cutting off a portion of one’s being, but by integration of the contraries.” – Carl Jung
As a dominatrix, I do not suppress my feminine qualities. Although I may rely on well-developed masculine traits at times, my main source of power is my feminine side. I tap into my feminine and use these beautiful gifts to enchant. My power comes from being connected to my authentic self. In turn, I inspire you to connect with your authentic self. My submissives are cherished. They provide for me their power, presence, and strength. Thus the quintessential masculine drive to “provide value” is in a nutshell acted out in my FemDom scenes.
She's Always a Woman to Me
Billy Joel
And she can ruin your faith with her casual lies
And she only reveals what she wants you to see
She hides like a child but she’s always a woman to me
She can lead you to love, she can take you or leave you
She can ask for the truth but she’ll never believe you
And she’ll take what you give her as long as it’s free
Oh, she takes care of herself, she can wait if she wants
She’s ahead of her time
Oh, and she never gives out and she never gives in
She just changes her mind
Oh, she takes care of herself, she can wait if she wants
She’s ahead of her time
Oh, and she never gives out and she never gives in
She just changes her mind
But she can do as she pleases, she’s nobody’s fool
And she can’t be convicted, she’s earned her degree
And the most she will do is throw shadows at you
But she’s always a woman to me