FemDom

Submission to a FemDom: The Ultimate in Healthy Masculine Behavior

Domina Viktoria Sway

In this FemDom blog, I will speak of masculine energy and feminine energy. Although I may use gender-specific words, I do so for the convention of writing. These energies are not gender-specific. All genders have masculine and feminine traits. Typically a person’s essence is one or the other. A healthy identity has developed its polar opposite and has the capacity of both. Usually, a person identifies with one trait, feeling most comfortable when operating from their essence.

“Trying to be a man is a waste of a woman.” Sarah Jessica Parker

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I am a professional Dominatrix and there is nothing I like more than a very masculine man. No, my femininity does not wilt in his presence. The strength of a person rooted in healthy masculinity combined with my expansive life-giving feminine energy creates an ethereal power exchange. Strong feminine energy does not steal masculinity. On the contrary, each energy is strengthened by the interplay with its polarity.

First, let’s dive into femininity. The feminine is intuitive, senses, guides, and nurtures. It is experiencing, collaborative, expressive, and shows wonderment. The feminine creates, heals, gives life, and empowers. A Dominatrix uses these gifts to create a mind-altering experience for a sub. The deeper in feminine gifts she is, the more dynamic the experience. Feminine energy is a balm to the soul of the masculine.

So then, what is masculinity? Presence, strength, logical thinking, risk-taking, and decisive action. The masculine loves achieving, strategizing, competing, and planning. Above all healthy masculine holds integrity to its goals. Masculine lives to provide, help and prove its worth to the feminine. The healthy masculine worships the feminine as a life-giving force. Masculine celebrates and basks in feminine traits to feed the masculine strength.

Masculine and feminine energy complement each other and are not in competition. However, they are usually perceived as one taking from the other. For example, the often thought of strong women, sucking the life from a man, stealing all his masculine energy. The man, cowed and weakened by the strong female. Feminine energy in western culture has tended to be thought of as a weakness. Traditionally feminine traits have not been valued to the extent of masculine traits. This belief has weakened us as a culture and robs us of our power to have balance and a healthful synergy.

FemDom offers a path to healing these destructive believes so prevalent in Western culture.

So then, what is masculinity? Presence, strength, logical thinking, risk-taking, and decisive action. The masculine loves achieving, strategizing, competing, and planning. Above all, healthy masculine energy holds integrity to its goals. Masculine lives to provide, help and prove its worth to the feminine. The healthy masculine worships the feminine as a life-giving force. Masculine celebrates and basks in feminine traits to feed the masculine strength.

In FemDom, the submissive masculine holds true to its course and boundaries experiencing the wild feminine. The Dominatrix, ever the creator of predicaments, is cruel, loving, exploring, and tempting. She embodies feminine chaos. She provides the ultimate test for the masculine to hold its container and prove worth. The submissive masculine demonstrates integrity, strength, and presence. All of this while being witnessed for his full range of emotions and vulnerability.

Women’s intuition and emotional intelligence keep masculine energy in balance. Masculine relies on the feminine to check and punish when he has wronged himself, others, or the world. Through practices like these balance is restored to our damaged spirits.

“Wholeness is not achieved by cutting off a portion of one’s being, but by integration of the contraries.” – Carl Jung

My version of FemDom is about owning our power. We embody and embrace our authentic selves and share in each other’s powerful gifts. I channel my feminine energy to create a power exchange that leaves both the masculine and the feminine synergistically stronger. The more smart, strong, independent females in the world the more we can openly express our true selves. Masculinity is strengthened by expressing vulnerability. Seeing and nurturing vulnerability is the healing gift of the divine feminine. As a culture, we will grow stronger by celebrating the bond between our strengths.

As a dominatrix, I do not suppress my feminine qualities. Although I may rely on well-developed masculine traits at times, my main source of power is my feminine side. I tap into my feminine and use these beautiful gifts to enchant. My power comes from being connected to my authentic self. In turn, I inspire you to connect with your authentic self. My submissives are cherished. They provide for me their power, presence, and strength. Thus the quintessential masculine drive to “provide value” is in a nutshell acted out in my FemDom scenes.

She's Always a Woman to Me

Billy Joel

She can kill with a smile, she can wound with her eyes
And she can ruin your faith with her casual lies
And she only reveals what she wants you to see
She hides like a child but she’s always a woman to me

She can lead you to love, she can take you or leave you
She can ask for the truth but she’ll never believe you
And she’ll take what you give her as long as it’s free

Yeah she steals like a thief but she’s always a woman to me

Oh, she takes care of herself, she can wait if she wants
She’s ahead of her time
Oh, and she never gives out and she never gives in
She just changes her mind

And she’ll promise you more than the garden of Eden

Then she’ll carelessly cut you and laugh while you’re bleeding

But she brings out the best and the worst you can be

Blame it all on yourself ’cause she’s always a woman to me

Oh, she takes care of herself, she can wait if she wants
She’s ahead of her time
Oh, and she never gives out and she never gives in
She just changes her mind

She is frequently kind and she’s suddenly cruel
But she can do as she pleases, she’s nobody’s fool
And she can’t be convicted, she’s earned her degree
And the most she will do is throw shadows at you
But she’s always a woman to me

Source: LyricFind

Songwriters: Billy Joel